Me First.
“Please put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping other passengers”
If you have flown in a plane, you have heard this sentence…but have you ever really thought about it?
I think if I was in that situation and flying with my children the natural inclination would be to help them.
But I have three kids, and would I be able to save all three if I couldn’t breathe?
No.
No is a full sentence.
The best way to help them, and anyone else for that matter, would be to make sure I was able.
Breath is life, without it, I would have no ability to respond.
And so, if I reacted as we have been conditioned for centuries, and tried to help another before helping myself…well that would not have been selfless, it would have been negligent.
By neglecting my needs, I would potentially die and not be able to help anyone!
Here is the catch, my head sees the sense in this, but my heart and my body are still so conditioned and reactive to this changing paradigm that it feels selfish to put myself first.
I absolutely know I am not alone in this; you feel it too.
So how do we change it?
Now for the astrological reasons I am feeling into this theme.
Disclaimer, ignore and get the message from my musings rather than the astrology if you are not trying to learn and understand it.
Still very connected to last month’s astrology.
Venus who has a lot to do with personal worth and value within relationship, is retrograde in Leo (the ultimate sovereign, who more needs to be responsible and accountable than he/she).
Pluto is now strongly square the Nodes of the Moon, which is why you feel the push/pull to change and the pressure building up that makes
it unavoidable.
The more we resist the more chaos presents in the outside world to force our hand.
Pluto (power and change) and Neptune (collective unconscious and the dream) in a happy sextile, supporting one another.
For those cycle and pattern lovers look back to the last Venus retrograde in Leo, Aug 2015, 2007, 1999 (keep going back in 8-year increments if you want to). This will help see the types of new chapters you began the last few Leo Venus retrogrades.
No is a full sentence, Yes is too
Are you a Yes wo/man or a No wo/man?
Why?
To the Yes wo/man;
When you say yes to everything that is asked of you, what is the payoff for you?
Likely you feel needed, worthy, valued, compassionate, kind, helpful and the like.
But is saying yes leaving you exhausted, stretched too thin, resentful, and doing the lions share of the work at work, at home, in all of your relationships?
You felt needed by others, but did you tune into your own needs?
You felt for a moment worthy and valuable, but is your
value and worthiness defined by how hard you slave drive yourself for others?
And can you feel worth and value in yourself if you say no, do less, prioritize yourself more?
All this compassion, kindness and helpfulness is from the outside in…can you do it from the inside out?
To the No wo/man;
When you say no to everything that is asked of you, what is the payoff for you?
Likely you feel no one can take advantage, get close, hurt you, make you do anything you don’t want to do, like you have control.
But is saying no leaving you numb, isolated, disconnected, lonely and unloved?
You try so hard to maintain control so as not to be manipulated or controlled by another that you become
controlling of others or shut yourself off from them?
You are so afraid of being hurt that you won’t let people close, won’t let them in, won’t let them love you?
You are so busy trying to feel safe that you build your walls so thick and so high, that you can neither love or be loved in your self-imposed prison?
Reciprocity is key.
The balance of giving and receiving, yes and no, high and low.
It is an inside job and it starts with you.
You need to live from the inside out, not the outside in.
You need to put on your own oxygen mask first.
The challenge when it is not as obvious as a crashing airplane
is to know yourself well enough to know when you need the oxygen mask.
We are so used to living in this state dysregulation of our nervous system that it takes time to recognize that we are dysregulated and that we have the power to change that.
See blog post no the nervous system https://www.rainbowwisdom.co.za/post/do-i-have-the-ability-to-respond
And another on learning to put yourself first by repatterning your mind, heart and body
Astrology Buzz
Leo Jul 24th to Aug 23rd self is always a theme in Leo season, as it is the sign ruled by the sun…this year it is hugely exacerbated by the fact the Venus is retrograde in Leo too. Reevaluating who we are, how we love, what we want to shine out to the world and letting go of what no longer serves us or no longer fits into our newly reassessed value system.
Virgo Aug 24th to Sep 23rdVirgo season comes in hot with Venus still retrograde in fiery Leo and Mercury retrograde in his own sign of Virgo, the urge to edit has never been stronger. If you don’t use it, believe it anymore, or get joy from it, it must go. What “it’s” do you need to let go of?
Take some rest and time to reflect, it’s not indulgent, it is self-care.
Full Moon
Aug Full Super Moon is in Aquarius on the 1st see my forecast around this Full Moon.
We will have a second Full Moon in Pisces for the month of Aug on the 31st
New Moon
Leo New Moon is on the 16th of August.
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Red Tent 2.0 masterclass teacher this month will be the Sun himself.
Learn how and where you were born to shine, what is your souls purpose
As we explore and uncover more about ourselves (shadow and light) we become more authentic and accountable.
If you are eager to learn from these master teachers in the sky, please get in touch.
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Crystals Made Simple
Check out my Udemy course.
The crystal I want to spotlight is Rhodochrosite
This is not a crystal I share about very often.
In my healing sessions with clients, it only comes up when there is a deep and open vulnerability.
This is not a stone that is about protecting a wounded heart, but more a magical ally in encouraging staying open and vulnerable and letting love grow from what looked broken.
It is such a tender and compassionate friend to have by your side when you choose to refuse to shut down your heart in spite of your pain or trauma.
She will not let you numb, but she will hold you while you cry.
She will remind you;
You are loved
You are worthy
You are lovable
You are valuable
You are beautiful just as you are
And over time you will start to believe her.
I do, and you are all of the above.
If you want assistance with this type of work book a personal session, or check out my Udemy course Crystals made Simple.
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Aromatherapy Made Simple
Check out my course on Udemy, Aromatherapy Made Simple
https://www.udemy.com/course/aromatherapy-made-simple/?referralCode=439F7FB6DAD91C6C73F1
Geranium, is in the spotlight this month.
It is sometimes referred to as the poor man’s rose.
Simple and humble she may be, but that detracts nothing from her magical potential to support us.
Geranium is far cheaper than rose because it grows prolifically and has a very high yield of essential oil from steam distilled plant matter.
This is a green frequency oil that is amazing for working at the level of the heart, and heart chakra.
It is also brilliant for all things hormone related and is very balancing on the hormones and calming for the moods.
From the perspective of self-care and putting on your own oxygen mask first it works of so many levels including those already mentioned.
For skin and hair care it is a must in your collection.
Particularly for women.
Diffusing it, into the air in your environment alone or in combination with other oils will calm you and your family/friends/colleagues and even pets.
Balance and reciprocity are her middle names.
Use any oils that are 100% pure essential oils, not fragrance oils.
I highly recommend doTERRA which is CPTG (Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade).
Do you want to use the magic of doTERRA essential oils to support your growth?
Remember to write your blends in your blend book so you remember what you liked and what you didn’t.
If you are keen to get hold of these magical oils, find me on this link https://www.mydoterra.com/cindyrainbowwisdom/#/
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Much Love and Light
Cindy
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